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She’s Just Not That Into You : Segment 2

February 11, 2010 Leave a comment

Here is the next segment of She’s Just Not That Into You : Segment 1

6) She’s just not that into you, if she’s not responding to your texts or calls soon enough:
When a girl is into a guy, she is usually very attentive to her phone. This means when you send a text message, she probably reads it as soon as she got it, and if you call, she will pick up if she can. If you get a delayed response, with no explanation for the delayed response, don’t get a response before you end up sending another text to her, or she replies very bluntly, she’s just not that into you. Then again she could just be playing that “let him chase me” game, and thinks it’s to her safety to keep you guessing. You can thank the schmut that she dated before you for this.

You receive one-worded texts

7) She’s just not that into you, if she sends you one-worded texts:
It’s been found that most girls hate receiving one-worded, or even one-lettered text messages. It’s annoying, why send another text just to say “k”? So, if a girl is doing this to you, that means she probably isn’t really wanting to carry on much of a conversation with you. You may occasionally get these types of texts, but if you are getting them constantly, then she just may not be that into you.

8 ) She’s just not that into you, if she doesn’t occasionally offer to pick up the tab:
When a girl is into a guy, she will at some point offer to pick up the tab. Or won’t even offer, will just beat you to it. If she never offers, always expects you to get it, or totally hesitates before she throws money in, she just may not be that into you. Girls like to take care of the guy that she likes, and if she actually does like him, she has an appreciation for him always picking up the tab, and will thus offer to herself.

9) She’s just not that into you, if she’s not sleeping with you anymore:
We could go into why a girl isn’t sleeping with you at all, but let’s focus on why she isn’t anymore. So perhaps you started hanging out with a girl you used to date, hang out with, or just hook up with. Whichever the case, you had slept together before, and now she won’t sleep with you. Or you’re still hanging out with someone and they just stop wanting to have sex with you. You figure, “we were sleeping together before, why wouldn’t she want to anymore?” Well, I hate to say it but she’s just not that into you….anymore. Another likely possibility is that she is sleeping with someone else and prefers to sleep with them, but likes hanging out with you still. Still, it means she’s just not that into you. Getting even more in depth, she could be in the process of getting back together with someone else, she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and just end it, so instead she just stops sleeping with you while you two slowly grow apart, and she then doesn’t feel guilty about sleeping with someone else as far as that other guy goes.

She won't sleep with you anymore

You can also look at it this way: was she just getting out of a relationship or something with another guy when she slept with you? You should know the term: REBOUND.
Or, what if you were that person that hurt her before. Sometimes when hurt, girls, after being pushed away, will eventually come to a point, if you push her away hard enough, that she doesn’t have the slightest bit of interest in you or attraction to you anymore. No matter how much she was into you before, emotional damage you did to her in the past could have damaged her attraction to you as well.

10) She’s just not that into you, if she doesn’t dance with you:
So some girls just might not like to dance because they think they can’t or whatever. But if you’ve got a girl here that you know likes to get down and dance with her friends all the time, well if she likes you she’ll probably dance with you. If she’s just not that into you, she may try and avoid to dance with you. If she’s dancing with everyone else, you notice she tries to get her friends to pull her towards them when you try to dance with her, or she makes up some excuse that she’s going to run to the restroom real quick when you try to dance with her, then, you guessed it, she’s just not that into you. When a girl is totally into a guy she will try getting him to dance with her whether he wants to or not. If you notice she doesn’t want to dance with you, don’t keep trying, it’s just going to make her more uncomfortable, and make her just not that much more into you.


She’s Just Not That Into You : Segment 1

January 19, 2010 1 comment

So by now almost everyone has heard of or seen “He’s Just Not That Into You”, a movie based on the book by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.  At least, most women have.  And, not long after seeing the movie, if they hadn’t seen the movie because they read the book, go out and buy the book.  It’s become a sort of Bible to dating for women, so it seems.  So, we get it Greg, you’re telling us all the ways to know a guy just isn’t into us.  But what about the vice versa situation?  Some guys don’t know when to take the hint that a girl is just not that into him.

So gentleman, here are some signs and situations to being able to tell that “she’s just not that into you”.

1) She’s just not that into you, if she says she has a boyfriend:
Whether or not the girl actually has a boyfriend, it does not matter. If she is trying to make it clear that she has a boyfriend, whether it is obvious she is lying through her teeth or not, then she’s just not that into you.

Don't be fooled: She's just not that into you

Situation: Dude sees girl. Dude thinks girl is pretty. Dude wants girl’s number.  So said dude bugs the girl’s friends for her number but she tells them to tell him that she has a boyfriend.  Dude doesn’t believe the friends or still does not care, and continues to persist.  Even if the girl just straight out tells the dude herself that  “sorry I have a boyfriend” Dude will sometimes still persist.  If the girl has to revert to using one of her guy friends to pretend to be her boyfriend, the dude should by now really get the hint

Look  even if the signs are apparent that she does not have a boyfriend, she’s doing everything she can to make it seem like she does have a boyfriend.  Clearly she is not interested, so stop persisting.  Please take the hint and save yourself the shame of her just straight coming out and saying “I’m just not interested in you!”, or something even more embarrassing.  Truth is guys, boyfriend or not if a girl is even remotely interested or finds you attractive, she won’t automatically revert to the “I have a boyfriend” defense.

2) She’s just not that into you, if she says you’re not her boyfriend:
If a girl likes you enough that she is considering the possibilities that you could some day be her boyfriend, she will never point out to you “well you’re not my boyfriend”, especially when it comes to an argument where she is defending herself.  Granted, she may have thought about it before, but as soon as she says that little statement, well you might as well move on guys. 
If you’re out with people and someone, especially a good-looking guy, asks her “is this your boyfriend?” and she is quick to reply “no he’s not my boyfriend” without that “he’s-not-my-boyfriend-yet-but-I’m-not-sure-what-to-call-him” hesitation, then she’s just not that into you. Especially if she doesn’t give you that awkward glance first.  If she seems pretty confident in saying you’re not her boyfriend, don’t expect this “relationship” to go very far.

3) She’s just not that into you, if she doesn’t want to spend the night:
If a girl likes you, she will take the opportunity to sleep over if you let her.  Even if she has somewhere to be in the morning, she’ll at least come over for most of the night.  But, if she actually has nothing to do in the morning, and still won’t sleep over, then she most likely is not interested in you.  And this is after the point you have determined this is not a conservative church-going celebant.  If the two of you have hung out for a while now and the opportunity for her to sleep over has been presented multiple times and she has not taken one, that might be a bad sign.  Even better, if she has been drinking and would rather take the risks of drunk driving then sleep over even though you insisted, I would just throw in the towel now on the chances of her ever sleeping over.

4) She’s just not that into you, if she is using you for your hookups:
So your friend works at a club and you can get that girl and her friends on the guest list cover free.  She takes your offer and shows up.  You are ecstatic, because this chick, who is all dressed up with her clubbing mafia, actually showed up.  You are thinking she must be into you, she actually came, or you are glad it worked.  This doesn’t mean that she is into you dude!  It could simply mean she was just using you.  Or maybe by not being interested in you, she was just naïve to your intentions and saw it as a generous offer.  Look, sometimes guys think they can win a woman’s heart by impressing her materialistically.  And sometimes, “girls just wanna have fun”.

5) She’s just not that into you, if she’s letting you buy her drinks:
Just because a girl let’s you buy her a drink, does not mean she is into you.  This should be obvious in this day and age, but some guys are still oblivious to it. 

Situation: You are at a bar and a girl catches your eye; you approach her and either offer to buy her a drink right away or make small talk first then offer to buy her a drink.  She let’s you and you think, “awesome a chance to keep talking, hit the dance floor, and maybe even get a number”.  Most of the time, these types of guys are wrong.  The statistics are pretty high that women often will accept one drink from a random guy, maybe linger a little as gratitude for the drink, then give an excuse such as “I’ll be right back I have to….”
    >”use the bathroom real quick”
    >”go grab my friend”
    >”check on my friend”
    >”make a phone call
    >”go dance with my friends”
    > etc., you get the idea by now I hope.

Even if you are a bartender, or a DJ, and the same girls keep coming back to your bar, consider this: do you always give her free drinks, or drink cards, passes, anything FREE?  Chances are if you have been, that is why she and her friends keep coming back to you. It’s not that they’re interested in you persay, but that they would rather go to the bar where they know they won’t be paying anything and can still have a good time.